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Elijah Cameron (Asheboro, NC)

Q: I am having issues with body dysphoria. I am upset that I don’t feel at home in my body, what do I do?

A: Body acceptance is a process, sometimes life-long. While that may sound like a pre-wrapped response, it simply means there is a lot of working through one must do to free themselves of the death-grip society has on body image. Those who fall outside the gender binary can suffer even worse. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be this way.

While body acceptance does not mean you disregard who you are by ‘settling’ for being what other people think your body means. You are the only one who can validate your identity and never let anyone tell you otherwise. What I do mean is acknowledging and respecting the body you were born with and finding new ways to interact with a body that does not reflect your mental state. While many adults have the luxury to pursue medical options, as a younger individual most of the time that isn’t necessarily a feasible reality. Working with parts you have as best you can is a great practice no matter what your body type or situation.

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